Building a Future Beyond Temporary Accommodation
At just 17 years old, Ella stepped into South Essex Homes (SEH) Temporary Accommodation, dealing with the challenges of young parenthood and independent living. It was a daunting experience, filled with uncertainty, but it marked the start of a journey that would shape her into the person she is today.
Starting Out
Ella explained to us that being one of the youngest residents in Temporary Accommodation came with its challenges. The environment could be overwhelming, and it was easy to fall in with the wrong crowd. But she was focused and determined to build a better future for herself and her child.
Despite the difficulties there were bright spots, including the kindness of the staff, who made an effort to check in and show their support, making Ella feel safer. After 18 months, she moved into one of the tower blocks in the town centre, then later moved into a maisonette still within SEH, before finally completing a mutual exchange to the house she now calls home.
Overcoming Challenges and Rebuilding Confidence
As Ella settled into her new home, life threw more challenges her way. After the birth of her second child and experiencing an unhealthy relationship, Ella's confidence hit rock bottom. She told us that there was a time when she didn't leave the house for six months.
Then came a turning point-ATF Stay and Play sessions. From the first visit, she felt a sense of belonging. There was no pressure, only acceptance. Slowly, she regained the confidence she had lost. When the opportunity to volunteer came up, she wasn't sure, but saying yes proved to be a great decision.
Finding Community and Looking to the Future
When asked what it has been like working with ATF, Ella said:
ATF have changed my life for the better. Since working for ATF, my self-esteem and confidence is unrecognisable. I used to be very shy. My confidence has been building, I can now happily talk to just about anyone. I have so much pride when I tell people about ATF, and the things we do for our community. I absolutely love every moment of it. Seeing the smiles on people's faces and the positive impact we have. Talking and making friends is my favourite part!
I first heard about ATF through Facebook, I took my little girl, who was one at the time. She was also very shy, and clingy to me, she would rarely join in, the ladies made us feel so welcome. We persevered and attended Stay and Play. I volunteered with ATF for a little while and within no time she was a social butterfly. She looks forward to seeing her friends at the sessions, and so do I.
I feel so lucky to have had this opportunity, it has made a massive change for my family for the better. I feel even luckier to be able to give back to the community .
Now, Ella has reached a point of stability and happiness. With her children, her dog, her home, and her car, she can finally focus on herself. And in a beautiful full-circle moment, she will soon be leading Leapsprogs sessions at Chaucer House-the very place where her journey began!
Ella's story is one of not giving up, proving that with support, determination, and the right opportunities, it becomes possible to create a future you're proud of.
Her advice to others facing similar struggles? Stay focused on your future and surround yourself with people who are good for you. Life has a way of unfolding unexpectedly, and sometimes, saying yes to the right opportunity can change everything.